Everyone flirts at some stage in their life, intentionally or unintentionally. It is a very important part in finding that right partner, and it could lead to a thriving relationship or just a little bit of fun. The key to flirting is sending out the right signals to others that you are attracted to them and would like to get to know them.
Flirting makes you feel good and confident, and it also makes the person you are flirting with feel good themselves, as everyone likes to receive flattering attention. It is important that you get the balance of flirting just right. So before you embark on your flirtatious quests, here are seven tips to avoid flirting disasters.
Don’t share too much
So you’ve just made a beeline for that person at the bar
and decide to go in for it. You’re chatting away and you find the
conversation is quickly turning from flirtatious banter to venting
out your personal problems. You may bring up the dreaded ‘ex files’
or start ranting about a friend, your boss or a family member. You
even find yourself bringing up your political allegiance or
religion. Stop right there…you’ve known this person for a total of
five seconds. Don’t start sharing intimate things. Don’t talk about
personal or home problems. Confiding is something that occurs
between close friends. Plus, flirting is fun, you don’t want to
become too deep and start boring the person.
Use the right body language
Want to make it obvious to the other person that you are
interested in them but you’re too shy? Don’t use closed body
language. Don't cross your arms across your chest while flirting.
This gives the impression that you are defensive and untrusting
towards others, which is not the impression you want to give out
when flirting. Remember, light touching and regular eye contact are
great tips for flirting. Casually touch the person on the arm or
hand to show that you are interested in them but be careful not to
overdo it. Touching inappropriately or being in any way vulgar or
rude will not only get you turned down but also probably slapped.
Watch what you say
Avoid tasteless and lame chat-up lines. Chat-up lines instantly put
people off and are a major catastrophe for flirting. For example,
you aren’t going to bag your flirtee with the line: “My love for you
is like diarrhoea, I just can’t hold it in.” Sleazy lines are also
an instant turn-off for most people. These are your moments to
impress so make the most of it. Also during flirtatious discussion,
listen carefully to what the other person is saying. By showing an
interest in them you are showing that you are considerate and
genuinely enjoy their company.
Don’t flirt with everyone
Don’t flirt with too many men or women at once. Be selective. Men
beware. Women talk. With their friends and with strangers at the bar
or in the toilet. Find a girl you’re interested in and focus on her.
If it doesn’t work out then you might need to move on to the next
place to find somebody else. Women will be extremely wary of a man
who she has seen talking to other women in the club. You may be a
masterful flirt, but you’re seeking an audience and in the end
you’re only amusing yourself and are not really that interested in
any of the women.
Flirt in the right places
Be mindful when flirting in the workplace. You are
surrounded by people with whom you have at least one thing in
common, away from your partner, and probably bored or stressed at
least some of the time. Yet flirting at work can be a career-ending
move, especially in the age of sexual harassment lawsuits. Never,
ever flirt with your boss or someone who reports to you and keep
flirting private, or confined to trusted people.
Don’t flirt for the sake of it
Don’t be miserable and attempt to flirt for the sake of it because
your mate leaves you to find their own lady or man to charm. The
trick is to make the other person feel special and not like it’s a
chore to speak to them. Ask questions and pay the other person
genuine compliments to kick off the flirtatious momentum.